Stop Pretending You're All Light & Love (Duality) - Episode 4

What does it really mean to embrace duality?

In this episode of The Spiritual Realest, we dive deep into the truth about duality, self-acceptance, and spiritual growth. Too often, we are taught to only show our “light” side while suppressing the parts of us that are protective, reactive, or powerful. But real healing comes from accepting both.

Using the powerful example of the yarrow plant, which can both stop bleeding and promote blood flow, this episode explores how duality exists in nature, in spirituality, and within ourselves. From day and night to love and wrath, even God embodies duality. So why are we taught to reject it within ourselves?

This episode breaks down:

•  How to embrace both your light and dark sides 
•  Why self-acceptance is key to personal growth 
•  The connection between duality and authenticity 
•  Letting go of shame and societal expectations 

Don't be afraid to confront the parts of yourself you’ve been hiding and begin the journey toward becoming your most authentic self.

Because you can be loving and protective. Peaceful and powerful. And anybody can f&#k around and find out!

Duality is not a weakness. It’s your truth.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

This is the spiritual realist, and I'm Scarlett Drown. This is a space for honest conversation about spirituality, individuality, and growth. Welcome to opening your mind without pressure, performance, or pretending. From views to for heavenly minded, but earthly good.

SPEAKER_02 0:20

From church fast to create.

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So we're gonna bring our songbow here, get rid of any negative energy or any distractions while we spend this time together. So today we're gonna talk about a plant that is probably unique to you, and you probably haven't heard of it. But it's called Yarrow, and it's a seeded plant that you could use. I like to take yarrow, boil it, and today I don't have an oil, but I do have it in our diffuser because we have boiled it, set it aside, seeped it, and put it in for a scent smell today. So that is what is filling the air today. Yarrow is a great plant to talk about when we are talking about duality. Because today we're talking about duality. And one of the elements yarrow was used for is on the battlefield and in war, they would take yarrow and pack it in wounds and it stops bleeding. But what makes it dual? What makes it duality? Well, when you boil it and consume it in a T form, guess what it does? It promotes blood flow. So this one plant does two things. It stops blood flow and it promotes blood flow. Spiritually, Yahweh is good for protection, courage, healing, and also firm boundaries without being hardened. Now let's get into it. Duality. God made heaven and earth. You have water and fire, you have day and night, you have the moon and the sun. And let's not forget man and woman. So, I mean, we can't talk about God without talking about duality. Everyone puts God in a box. Everyone says that God is peace and love and kindness and grace and mercy and everlasting, and he gives us and he's a provider. But we don't talk about God's wrath. I mean, God is the one that destroyed the entire earth at one go. He saved, what, a hundred people? And he destroyed every animal, every fossil, everything that was not in that ark was destroyed. So you telling me that it's okay for God to have duality, but we cannot have duality. I mean, so if we made in God's image, why do we fight so hard to not accept our duality? I mean, anybody can fuck around to find that. I'm just saying. What I'm meaning is, and let's be clear, I am not promoting any violence, I'm not promoting illegal acts against anyone, but what I am promoting is accepting that when those people come at you and that you've been lied on, you've been talked about, you've been misrepresented, you've been crucified for no reason, or simply because they didn't like your hair, or they didn't like your style, or they didn't like the way you talked. It's alright to let them goons come get them. Cause baby, mine's coming. Let's be real clear. Now, I may not physically come and see about you. I could, but I wouldn't. But tell the truth, I will put your name in some ammonia on some parchment paper, shake you up, and put you in the closet. And that's all just so you could keep my name out your mouth. I mean, am I still not a good person because I protect me? Am I still not righteous because I don't allow your negativity or your energy to come affect me? Let's be real clear. I love me. You should love you. Because all I know is I come before you in every alphabet I know. Now, I'm 95% light and love. I'm always about the peace and the blessings and to bless you even when, in spite of your attitude towards me. But that 5% though, let's be real clear. This tongue is like a two-edged sword. It slices you up and down at the same damn time. Let me let you understand that I will tear you down and build you up just like that. My goal in life is to be the most authentic version of myself that I could be. And that should be your goal in life. And that is accepting all of who you are: your dog, your light, your sun, and your moon, your daytime and your nighttime. And let me talk about my mental willpower real quick. Because it's strong enough to move a mountain for you, but it's also strong enough to curse your ancestors. I mean, the first 60 minutes that I went on the first date with my now wife, let's be real clear, I ran it down. You hear me? I mean, I told her everything: childhood traumas, ticks, batshit crazy things, anything that had to do with her wanting to fall in love with me. Because I needed her to understand. Let's be real clear. I love and I love hard. And I love people beyond the ability for them to love me. Because that's a gift. That's who I am. But please don't come across me. Leave me on zero. Because all I have is zero or a thousand. I don't have no in-between. I don't have no millimeters, no centimeters, no seconds, no milliseconds. I got zero and one thousand. And that's on guard. I mean, I told them straight up, I can be your worst nightmare or your sweetest dreams. I mean, let's be real clear about this. I ain't talking about no bust your windows, break your stuff, hurt you kind of way. I'm talking about leaving mental scars that will be with you and your generations to come. That's the kind of duality I'm talking about. The kind that will change a generation. Cause you fucked around and found out. I mean, I'll wait a lifetime to get a person back. Knowing that God is the one who should serve vengeance. But best believe, baby, I'm praying that he served you hard, of course. Everything you tried to give me, every ounce of it. And if you ain't get it, let your children get it. And if they ain't get it, let their children get it. That's the duality I'm talking about. But in the same breath, at the same time, I am praying that your needs are met, that God bless you, that I let go of the hurt that is inside of me. So that I don't pray God's vengeance on your life because light and love exist. Light and dark exist. Day and night exist. Who am I to withhold my goons from coming after you? Because I'm trying not to deal with the duality of who I am. Just like the Yarrow plan. We all are human. We all are duality. We all can stop the bleeding or implement the bleeding. Listen, I was born duality. I'm a Gemini Gemini. I was born the sign of two faces. I was born parallel. That is my calling. That is who I am. That is what I do. I was born to show everyone that duality exists in God, here on earth, in regular life, and in spirituality. I mean, I was trapped. I have a snap. I have a temper. And I spent my life trying to keep that in a box. Keep the lid on that part of me. Because everyone said, that smile, she's so cute, she's so adorable. But that temple wanted to slice and dice at times. I had to learn when that anger showed up and showed out, and then the repercussions of that showing out were presented. It was as if all my light was gone. That smile was no longer the cutest thing on the earth. Because that tongue had to destroy character or reputations that were hidden underneath the dirt. And that took me a long time to process that I am okay with me. It's okay to let that goon out of the box. Especially if it's a reaction to an action of unjust whatever. Me accepting my duality is how I'm able to be with you today. Because if I didn't, I wouldn't be able to be here and not be afraid of anything that comes my way. Me being here today lets you know that I have accepted all of who I am because God has made us in his image. And his duality is my duality. And I don't have to worry about or fear anything that's gonna come my way. I can speak truth because I live in truth. I am my most authentic self in this moment, good or bad, happy or sad, day and night, sun and moon, man and woman, all that exists within. Because duality is within. With that being said, who are you in duality? What's your night and day? What's your light and dark? I mean, if you're not sure, which I know you're sure, because we all present to the world one thing, but behind closed doors, we can be somebody else. We all can. But what are you ashamed of? What are you afraid to show? Write it down. Show yourself that your duality ain't as bad as what they say. If you were taught not to accept your duality, show them that they're wrong. Show them that there's nothing wrong with you being all of who you are. Because the point of all of this is for all of us to show up our most authentic self. And that means showing all of who you are and not being ashamed of it. Because he who is without seeing, you cast the first stone. And I don't know nobody. I mean nobody that's perfect. Because I'm not, you not, your mama not, your daddy not, your ancestors not. None of us are. Because we are all duality. Write down all of who you are. And as you're writing and reading what you wrote of a complete version of you, come to pray that the things that you are ashamed of, that's legal. Let me say that. That you are just ashamed of because society has told you to be ashamed. Come to accept that. Come to show light to that part of you. Come to show growth. Let that part of you out a little bit. If you're a person that likes to go out and shake a tail feather, baby, shake your tail feather. If you're a person that likes to go out and mingle amongst the crowd, go and mingle amongst the crowd. If you're a person that likes the same sex, but you're afraid because of society or because of your reputation, go. Try it. There's nothing wrong with you being whole. There's nothing wrong with you looking at that paper and saying, hey, I like this part of me, but I'm hiding this part of me because I'm worried about naysayers and talkers and negative opinions. Like I tell everybody, I go to bed at night, every night, accepting of who I am. And you should too. I'm Scarlet Drought, as always, heavenly minded but earthly good. Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in thy sight. O Lord, my strength and my redeemer. Honor yourself. And remember, anybody can fuck around and find that. From church fans to create. You can watch on YouTube, listen on all the podcast platforms, and continue the conversation at The Spiritual Realist. I'm Scarlett Drow, heavenly minded but earthly good. Until next time. The Spiritual Realist is produced by Organized Movement.

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From O to dead, to touch the dirt, I let the bitch guide me to the earth of the earth card and I would tell the ever story that they talking to.